Life is all about perspective… maybe daily repetitive errands and chores are not enjoyable to you but every once in a while, remind yourself that you are healthy and able to perform these tasks. It’s not uncommon to speak to yourself negatively, but we need to be careful not to let this become a habit. We unknowingly say things like, “I have to get up on Monday and take my kids to school” or “I have to walk my dog” When you catch yourself talking this way take a moment to stop and change your perspective. Think about someone who lost the ability to walk, imagine how they might miss taking those strolls outside. Or imagine being a parent who has lost their child, what would they give to change another diaper or deal with one more tantrum? Its okay to have moments of frustration with the daily grind, but when life becomes overwhelming take a pause and switch your mindset to a more positive one. Our words and thoughts are powerful. Gratitude is an amazing tool that will change the way you see relationships and obligations.
Raising children can be the most challenging, frustrating and least rewarded job on the planet. Becoming a mother requires infinite patience and endless optimism, most days this is all easier said than done. Losing yourself in a pit of frustration and exhaustion is all too common, doubts set in when you realize that you don’t have all the answers. The trickiest part of being a new parent is learning how to confidently encourage yourself when times get tough and view your experience with gratitude. My daughter had her first child in 2016. Her journey began like most new parents with excitement and enthusiasm but after time that excitement turned into weariness. Her “I get-to” slowly turned into “I have-to” and two years in to being a stay at home mom she found herself in a rut and having a difficult time. Having gone through this stage of life myself many years ago; I understand that making a conscious effort to be grateful when your changing a diaper or wrestling your child into a car seat is tough. It’s easier to let the hard parts about parenting pile up on your conscience and let the negativity creep in. Being the grandmother looking back, it’s simple for me to say that everything works out, “this is just a phase”, “you’ll look back on this and laugh”, but I also understand that when I was a mother of young children the world in front of you can seem overwhelming. Gratefulness is the key to open the door of happiness. Setting an example for my daughter has helped to change her perspective about thankfulness and gratitude and in turn will help her establish an example for her son.
Words have a powerful effect on how the world unfolds around us. When your inner monologue consists of phrases like, “I can’t’” or “I have-to” after time that negative language becomes normal. Negative words result in damage to your confidence and happiness. Scientific research confirms that how you speak to yourself really has lasting impact. It’s important to be your own biggest supporter and remember that you are “able-to” and “you can” if you just give it a try. Can changing the way you use words when talking about yourself or your situation change the way you feel inside? Absolutely! Language can’t change reality but it can change how you perceive reality to see the world a little brighter.
Challenge yourself for an entire month to write down one thing every day that you’re grateful for even if its something as simple as being thankful for your morning cup of coffee or for having a warm bed to sleep in…whatever makes you happy and thankful to be alive every day, write it down. At the end of one month you’ll have 30 things to remind you not only of how wonderful life can be but how wonderful it actually is.